Among Many, Still Yourself
If you are sensitive, you are likely very aware of subtle group dynamics.
You are aware of who feels what about who. How people feel about you (although this information is likely always tinted with your own wounding). You are aware of the general well being of the ecosystem around you.
In this way, I see that sensitive people operate like crucial ecological markers. In the same way that trees create a web of information through energetic and physical communication with each other and we call this a forest… sensitive human beings are tuned into these “social forests” and the energy currents that create them.
Yes, these currents exist on an emotional and mental level. What is being felt, thought, and what is not being said. But it also exists on an energetic or spiritual level: the realm of pure energy. The place where psychics play.
It is very easy if you are sensitive to get lost in the group. To lose your sense of self amidst the social forest you find yourself in, regardless of if that is a family, a friend group, or a country.
This is why I have spent the last decade of my life as a highly sensitive person learning how to differentiate energetically.
How to reclaim and empower my own energetic space from everyone else around me. Because I’m quite fabulous at merging. I really don’t need to be taught how to do that.
What I have needed to learn, and what I gather a LOT of highly sensitive people benefit from learning, is how to cultivate awareness about the merging and how to individuate.
How to find your own energetic space and make it your private sanctuary.
Think of the last time you were in your home alone. Maybe you live with people. Maybe you live alone. But remember the last time you were the only human being for the entire square footage of your house.
Or if you live alone, and especially in a busy city… think about the last time you were in a forest completely alone. No other human being for miles.
Do you remember how that felt?
That feeling of solitude: the exhale.
The gentle dropping in to the rhythm of your own energy, your own flow.
If you are sensitive, it likely feels GOOD to be alone.
Like you can breathe.
Like the solitude is something to bask in.
Most people can recognize this as having to do with not being around other people physically. But as a psychic, I want to take this one step further. This phenomenon of feeling good in your own company, like you can finally breathe, also results from being in your own energy, instead of being saturated in someone else’s.
Your own energy feels like a homecoming.
It feels GOOD. It feels SAFE. It feels like like you.
When you live your life overwhelmed by other people’s energy, which a lot of highly sensitive people do (until they learn otherwise)… your life can feel heavy. It can feel weighed down. It doesn’t feel so great.
Other people’s energy in your space can manifest as inner blocks or even disease. (This does not mean that we are destined to feel wonderful all of the time— being human means experiencing uncomfortable emotions!)
The ability to be tuned in to the collective, whether that is your family or the greater collective, is a gift. It is an ecological skill that aids in survival and interconnectedness. We do not look at trees and their ability to establish a group field and think they are victims to one another’s influence.
But you need to be able to come home to your own energy in order to survive too!
You need to know how to *spiritually* (not just mentally) set down the weight of the subtle noticing of absolutely everything, of your family’s pain or grief, of your friend’s dramatic break up, of the collective fear that swallows groups in times of emergency.
You need to know how to hold your own space in the face of the other.
It is the only way that I have found that your sensitivity can sustainably be the gift that it actually is.
Can you imagine what it would be like to be in a sea of people, a crowd, and still feel that deep exhale of solitude?
That is only possible if you work on the energetic realm: if you know how to differentiate your ENERGY from everyone else’s.
Where you can physically be surrounded by others, but energetically you have created a bubble of peace and inner connection wherever you go, no matter the circumstance.
For highly sensitive people who feel the energy of the collective whether they are aware they are doing that or not… this ability to have your own energetic space is a CRUCIAL survival skill for these times because I don’t think I need to elaborate on how intense and wild it is on Earth right now. You get it!
Bottom line: you don’t have to lose yourself to belong.
You get to belong and have your sensitivity too.
As a highly sensitive person, you belong here, on this planet, right now.
Energetically individuating allows you to maintain your well-being and fully embody the gift your sensitivity is, even in intense circumstances (like being alive on Earth right now!).
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